If the exhaust is off, then if could be a head gasket. But if the oil filter adapter gasket is shot is could be dumping oil on the ground, usually more so when driving when pressure is up.
The dark exhaust is the key though. If its smokey dark with a touch of blue, thats oil alright.
The final test would be a compression test. Thats where you remove each spark plug and turn the engine over manually to see how much psi each cylinder gets up to. They should all be pretty much the same. But if you have one low, thats another sign of a leak.