Update:
I'm doing this from my phone, so please bare with me..
So I pulled the water pump and replaced it with ACDelco 252-800 pump from amazon. $54.99
This stopped my coolant leak!
But we were still overheating
Bought the fan actuator to replace, as my research showed that was more than likely the culprit.
So I pulled the fluid tank and disconnected the hoses that fed the fan. What I did was take my shop vac and made a custom attachment with a smaller diameter rubber hose that I snaked down into the fan fluid tank as far as I could. I sucked all the old ATF fluid out. It was definitely dirty. I disconnected the hoses and proceeded to do my actuator swap. Problem was, I was having a hard time getting my ratchet to move in the tight space. So I reconnected the hoses and refilled the tank with new mercon-v ATF fluid. Drove to harbor freight to buy some new goodies.
Car did not over heat. Although not totally flushing the fluid, but definitely getting most of it out, I think the detergents in the new fluid might have temporarily fixed the fan actuator.
I'm typing this about 5 days after I changed the fluid. Still same old actuator in there. Still no overheating. Currently sitting in my daughter's pick up line at her school, 20+ minutes, AC on. I'm contemplating if I should wait to put the new fan actuator in since the hot months are basically over? Or go ahead and just get it over with. Either way, car isn't over heating or leaking fluid.
All together, I changed:
Tube assembly (1/2" crack right in middle top/backside)
upgraded thermostat housing to URO(fill cap cracked, leaking)
Thermostat
Coolant bypass hose
Upper radiator hose(inside still looked really good still, nothing like some of the pictures I've seen on here where they wrte all corroded)
Degas tank (cracked all to hell on the back side)
Water pump(cracked seal)
Thank you to everyone who helped me thru this issue!!